Love isn't passive, it acts without hesitation.
Life isn't passive, she flows without hesitation, knows what's needed, knows what's existentially, essentially significant.
don't rationalize-philosophise-justify-condemn why you didn't do the right/needed etc etc thing that you could have done, just abandon all thinking and do it next time! Give it your all.

"My religion is to not deceive myself."
- Milarepa

"Real communication between people is not verbal. For establishing and maintaining relationship affectionate awareness expressed in direct action is required. Not what you say, but what you do is that matters."
- Nisargadatta Maharaj