What we essentially want is freedom from wanting, that is, desirelessness.
It cannot come about by merely trying forcefully to not want (as it keeps the Mind in the same struggle of seeking-avoiding a.k.a. creating opposites/duality and fighting the tendency with the same tendency only to have nothing changed),
but by following the string of desire without necessarily acting on it, and you arrive at the same thing each time you follow it; you see you were looking for an experience you've had before thinking it would satisfy you. When you've seen this cyclical thought-feeling movement the seeking of something else-avoiding of the present moment all the way, desirelessness naturally prevails.
The "wanting/desiring" at the moment it occurs is indistinguishable from the Mind that has become it and is not a "thing" separate from it, and we seek freedom from it which can be had merely by continuing to "see" as many times as it takes.
You beyond your "I" are the source, the whole that is ever empty, hence fulfilled, ever complete.
Everything else has ever only been an addition, it can be had or not had.
It doesn't change anything about you.