When you love someone truly, fiercely, and unquestionably, it begins the deepest kind of merging, a dissolution of your"self"a.k.a. the seeming of Mind a.k.a. the known/the mind/the I/me!
You become them, and you honour that effortlessly, remain true to it Choicelessly.
Love, unlike all other fleeting things, doesn't depend on anything for its flow and expression. It naturally finds its way, enduring all just by being Love.
It sometimes resides in the quiet, it sometimes arrives fiercely, washing over you and your egoic/mental defences like a stream running through the mountains relentlessly. It lives on quietly, musically, unfailingly. Love sometimes is patiently sitting at your door like a devotee at the altar. And what else could it do?
It is all about the beloved, the one who loves is forever carried in the beloved and vice versa; the two are always deeply powerfully One. Fighting or controlling this immensity is like arguing with the Divine, a fool's errand. All you can do is humbly get out of the way.
You become who you love. You are who you love.
Anything short of it is a waste of time. Adopt a greater degree of foolishness. When looking for a pearl in the depth of the ocean, abandon all ideas of reason and rationality!
Go all out. Love them completely. Do not half-ass your way through life.